Couples Counseling

At Elevated Intimacy®, we work with couples who want to better understand what is happening between them. Our work may focus on longstanding patterns of conflict or resentment, attachment wounds, differences in desire or sexual needs, betrayal and trust, or the ways ADHD and other neurodivergence can shape communication and connection.

We work with couples of all genders and sexual orientations, including same-sex couples, couples exploring or practicing non-traditional relationship structures, and relationships navigating questions around kink, BDSM, polyamory, or consensual non-monogamy. We also have experience working with couples navigating the effects of past sexual or relational trauma, sexual pain, mismatched desire, and significant differences in values, needs, or life goals.

Our work draws from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), the Developmental Model, Relational Life Therapy (RLT), Discernment Counseling, and Internal Family Systems (IFS), allowing us to tailor therapy to the particular dynamics and needs of your relationship.

If you and your partner(s) are considering couples therapy, contact Elevated Intimacy® to schedule a free consultation or schedule directly through the website here.

Common Areas of Focus

  • Getting stuck in the same arguments without knowing how to move forward

  • When one partner is trying to repair the relationship while the other is questioning whether they want to stay

  • Feeling anxious or insecure in the relationship & struggling to understand what you need from each other

  • Rebuilding trust after infidelity, betrayal, secrecy, or other significant relationship ruptures

  • Long-standing resentment, unresolved hurts, or a history of ruptures that continues to shape the relationship

  • When ADHD, autism, or other differences in how partners communicate, regulate emotions, or experience connection create friction

  • Pain during sex or other sexual difficulties that begin to affect closeness, desire, or the relationship

  • Sexual anxiety, shame, avoidance, or difficulty feeling comfortable and present during intimacy

  • When past relationship or attachment wounds make it difficult to feel safe, secure, or understood with your current partner

  • The impact of past sexual experiences, including childhood sexual abuse or sibling sexual abuse, on trust, intimacy, and connection

  • Kink, BDSM, and other consensual sexual practices, including navigating differences in interests or comfort levels

  • Polyamory and consensual non-monogamy, including opening relationships, renegotiating agreements, and working through ruptures

  • Feeling close and connected in some areas of the relationship while feeling increasingly distant in others

  • Differences in sexual desire, including when one partner wants sex more often or experiences desire differently

  • Questions or tensions around sexual orientation, gender, or sexual identity within a relationship

  • Differences in values, life goals, relationship expectations, or what each partner needs to feel fulfilled